‘No moneyman can win my love It’s sweetness that I’m thinking of’
Having old skool stuck in my head this Monday morning and its all Cher Loyd’s fault, mixing up words and rewriting the script! My girl loves her and sometimes have to set the record, show them where these remixes came from. Feeling old…
Not really, working with an amazing coach and feeling brand new in many ways after a very adverse 18mths. Changing some bad habits and owning the reality of my situation and rewriting the script of MY life. I’m empowered! Excited, tender, nervous, happy, sad but giddy with possibility and completely aware of a lot of things that were a cloud for so long. Old relationships, current dysfunctional ones and early childhood relationships all playing out in my reality, not trivia but the barometers I’ve used to identify who I am. Now I am on my own which to be honest was the last place I expected to be right now ever.
Its like I just woke up from a 30 year sleep kind of freshness and yet I feel so unprepared. Its this brilliant clarity and understanding of my own behavior like I have been able to step outside of my self and view the past 30 years and find myself completely present in the moment with the future unknown.
Some of my personal coaching tasks include vision and behavioral modifications that at first can sound like a lot of hard work but doing so produces better results in your daily life, change your internal life and see how your external life responds. Consistent effort daily to adjust your behavior to support the life you want is the key to living a creative whole life.
We learn who we are by our interactions with others and our responses and the reactions we get, these relationships shape us and eventually our world. Who we are is mirrored in our relationships, no one functions outside this paradigm.
Do humans have an innate value?
Yes we do! When babies are born if a mother does not love and nurture and feed a baby we all feel compelled to want to do it, that is a healthy human response. If a baby was left on the side of the road we would not drive past and ignore it and say oh well it was abandoned. Never. Humans have an innate value of life and each of us valuable in our own right.
We all have the freedom of choice but we as human beings are not free of the consequences of those choices and if they are not universally adapted they are going to hold back humanity either individually or nations. Favoring one side over another or supporting only half our humanity is an antiquated psychology that harbors war mongering and keeps humanity divided in defensive behavior for what good? To better the lives of you and yours?
As we move forward we must work together as one earthly being, celebrating our diversity and keeping it in tact and accepting and seek to foster equal rights for all and isn’t it lovely our leaders are getting better at doing this? I wish I continued with my International Relations Study, perhaps I will return to it one day.
I often look to my personal relationships and see how the dynamics of them can translate to historical events and the culture of the generations before me. I often get philosophical and test these theories and there is so much to learn about the needs of humanity through the social interactions within a family alone. The past, the present and the future is all dynamically connected in the relationships and social paradigms we inhabit.
Acceptance has a giant role in humanities progress, I know growing up I was protected from the world and did not understand the darker side of humanity like I do today, I’d go as far to say I was Utopian. It did not help me not knowing, and I see with my own children and their interactions and exposure to knowledge and understandings they are growing up more enlightened from experiences they have geared with the knowledge they learned. Wee wisdom.
Dismissing damage does not make it go away, but shining light and love in the darker spaces and lonely places brings a sense of beauty to the imperfection.
To have an inquiring mind, means you are always curious and desiring understanding, growth and clarity and belonging is part of the desire to do so. Motivated!
PS What’s been your biggest insight today? Care to share some thoughts? Would love to hear from you!