Let’s explore developing resiliency with mindfulness.
What is resiliency?
Resiliency is our capacity to bounce back from life’s challenges. Adversity in life happens to the best of us; there will always be joys and sorrows because life is essentially unpredictable. Jon Kabat Zinn, the founder of the worlds most popular mindfulness program says it right with his book title ‘Full Catastrophe Living.” But resilient people are able to greet challenge and change as an opportunity for self-reflection, learning and growth.
How can you become more resilient?
The good news is resilience is a skill you can develop and I am going to share some mindfulness based coaching skills to develop resiliency.
We know from research that regular mindfulness practice helps the amygdala recover quicker from stress and this ’emotional regulation’ is the key to resilience. It doesn’t change the reaction you have to events but it does help you recover faster can bounce back from life’s blows
Three tips for developing resilience:
- Practice mindfulness of breathing for at least 10 minutes a day and cue mindfulness with the breathing space meditation.
- During difficulties practice mindfulness, bringing attention back to breath as best you can creating space. Sometimes even in the most difficult situations you can find nuggets of positivity.
- Use mindfulness to shift your attention from negative rumination to more positive thoughts about the future. Hope and optimism is a choice, you cant change the stressful events that happen but you change how you respond to that. There is always positive things to look for in adversity and resilient people say they they notice how their relationships might be strengthened, or they access resources they didn’t know they previously had. The smallest steps make a difference.
- Nurture positive relationships. Positive relationships is a big part of mindfulness and wellbeing. Being involved with people who will support you and stay connected to you is the key to wellbeing. Cultivate kindness in your relationship and celebrate successors, nurturing positive relationship means you will always have a resource of supportive people who can lift you up after adversities.
The more you practice mindfulness the more resilient you become because you are enabling your emotional regulation systems to be strengthened which allows you to recover from adversity faster. When you cultivate mindfulness you are not trying to fix anything or make anything go away you’re expanding your field of awareness to not be so identified personally with the stressor and be more intentional and conscious about your life’s choices and where your attention flows at any given time.